I had the privilege of officiating a wedding a few weeks ago. I was honored, humbled, encouraged, and amazed all at the same time. It was an outdoor wedding and while it was slightly warm for a late afternoon in May, the weather cooperated. The bride was beautiful, the groom was handsome (ah, young love!), the location was picturesque, and it was well attended.
It seems all weddings have a minor glitch or two and this one was no different. Due to a light breeze, there was a problem with the unity candles at the beginning of the service but that did not create a major issue.
As the last of the bridesmaids and groomsmen made their way down the aisle, I leaned over to the groom and quietly told him, “What happens in the next 30 seconds you are going to remember for the rest of your life; Seeing your bride walk down that aisle. Etch this event into your memory”
However, just as those words left my mouth, a bigger issue arose as the entry of the flower girl walking down the aisle throwing her rose pedals did not go as planned. While cute as a button, the little 3 year old decided she was not going to participate. Loudly, she made her decision well known.
As this was the first wedding I’ve ever officiated and having no experience with how to handle this situation, I stood there in front of the assembled mass of humanity wondering, “What do I do now?” Thankfully, in the LORD’s mercy, He easily solved this very minor problem as a few in the crowd giggled, lightening the moment. Even the groom, the uncle of the little tyke, chuckled and I realized her refusal to cooperate was a blessing in disguise. It was so cute and it relieved some nervous tension, especially on my part. I leaned back over to the groom and said, “That’s not what I was referring too. It’s what happens next is what you want to remember!”
Whether the flower girl walked down the aisle or not, in 20 minutes the couple was going to be pronounced “husband and wife,” so becoming exasperated about this little change of plans didn’t make sense. It served as a relief valve and the rest of the wedding went off without a hitch.
Isn’t that how life often works? What we plan for, stress over, and worry about, often has an unanticipated wrinkle thrown at us. What will be our response? Are we going to panic or can we find calmness in the midst of the confusion? Sometimes, the thing that may bring stress into our life can actually be used to help a situation.
Paul’s may be referring to this when he says in Philippians:
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:6-7
Take time to enjoy life’s moments. Even if they aren’t exactly what you planned for, if we are “anxious for nothing” and trust Him to work out those events, we can experience the “peace of God” and find contentment in the moment.
My guess is, ten years from now, no one will remember anything I said. Most people won’t remember what was served at the reception and only a few people will be able to correctly identify the couples’ colors for the wedding. But, there is a good chance people will remember a cute little girl’s refusal to walk down a make-shift aisle and how nearly everyone in attendance got a great chuckle of her lack of enthusiasm.
Has life thrown you an unexpected curve? Don’t be anxious and let the peace of God surround you! Yes it is easier said than done, but trusting Him when plans go awry is the better choice. In the long run, it may even be the best option.
Blessing my friend!